Melissa’s Cozy Teacup

Ah, the R.S.V.P.  That little acronym dreamed up by a desperate socialite obviously tired of sending out invitations to boorish people who couldn’t take the time to write or call with a response to their gracious hostess to let her know if they would be attending her party, wedding, bridal or baby shower or graduation.  How rude!

Here’s how it works, my friends:invitation arrives in mail, if you are single and won’t be accompanied (assuming you’ve been given a plus one, if you haven’t been given a plus one, do NOT invite other people along to someone else’s party, you’re not a rock star, you don’t need an entourage) walk to your calendar, day planner, or electronic scheduling device and check to see if you are available, sit yourself down that instant and compose your reply. Yes, I would love to attend, no, I will not be able to make it. Seal the envelope, and walk it back out to your mail box post haste! If you are married and need to check with your spouse, do so as soon as possible then send your reply. We do NOT ever, EVER! wait until the last minute just in case something better comes along and if by chance you said you would attend and something better does come along, you are obligated to attend the first one you have committed to, you may NOT cancel on your hostess for something better. That is rude, childish behavior and it needs to end now.

If you’ve never been a host or hostess, try it sometime. You just may end up with more compassion for your hostess, if you have a heart, and hold true to your commitments.  Besides, flaking out on your hostess gives you a reputation of, well, being a flake!